Monday, February 25, 2008

How to blow bubbles

Step 1- Open container. Step 2- Put as many fingers in the bubble container as possible. Step 3- Grab stick. Step 4- Taste bubbles to make sure they are worthy. Step 5- Put stick to mouth and spit. Whhaaa laaa....bubbles in the air! No? Not yet...Let's repeat steps 1-5. Hmmmm....still not working? Let's ask for help! Just a little adjustment of the stick and now we have bubbles!!!So yeah, Skylar's at the "do it herself" phase now. She'll try and try....and when she can't quite get the outcome she wants.... whatever she may be attempting, she'll say "Help please!" It's all a part of the learning process and exploring her little world. But sometimes don't you just want to do it for them rather than watch them get frustrated? I do, but I try not to until she asks for the help. Because 9 times out of 10, if I try to help before she's ready, she'll sternly decline my attempts to assist.....with a NO MOMMY!! , a shout, a grunt or simply take off running. But at the end of the day, she'll accept our help and feels a sense of accomplishment when she achieves whatever it may be on her agenda. (How do I know?easy...she'll clap and say yaaayy Skylar!!) ;-) She was thrilled to blow the bubbles on her own after I helped her to understand she simply didn't need to EAT the bubble wand but had to hold it a little further away and blow. Just a little guidance was all she needed. Sounds a lot like everyday life in the real world to me. People simply don't want to ask for help when they need it. Or a least the ones that really need it, seem to proud to ask. Whether it be spiritually, emotionally, financially, mentally, at work or at home, I'm sure we could all use a little help somewhere. With demands of daily living, especially for those that work full-time outside the home, with and without kids, I know there are areas where we all struggle from time to time. But I also know when you try to reach out to assist some people or groups of people, they aren't so inclined to accept at first. But YOU know....that just a little help could get them where they want to go. Maybe it's you that needs a little guidance. Maybe it's a co-worker or a family member. Whatever the case may be, I'm hoping we as adults, parents, neighbors, and friends can learn to ask for and accept the help where we need it or offer the help for those that could use a little nudge. But know your boundaries....and pray about it. Best advice I can offer. (And just think....this advice is free!! my general
counseling rate is $150.00 an hour. Today is your lucky day!....don't like the free advice?...go pay someone else to fix you...move along now!) In the words of an unknown author..."Nobody can do everything, but everyone can do something." If we all just open our hearts and minds a wee bit, maybe we too can learn...........or teach someone to blow bubbles!

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